26 October 2011

Everything has beauty ...

This life is what you make of it. No matter what, you're going to mess up sometimes; it's a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you're going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends - they'll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go, but the ones who stay with you through everything - they are your true best friends. Don't let go of them. As for lovers, well, they'll come and go too and although I hate to say it, most of them - actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can't give up, because if you give up, you'll never find your soul mate. You'll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you "fail" once, doesn't mean you're going to fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on and always believe in yourself, because if you don't, then who will?

Always keep your head high, your chin up and most importantly - keep smiling, because life is a beautiful thing and there's so much to smile about.

11 October 2011

My happy ending ...

Life ... a small 4-letter word but a huge concept! There have been times when I have been talking with my friends and family and they say that I am too simplistic about the one thing I hold true no matter what the situation - loving yourself. No matter what life throws at you, if you can remember these 2 little and powerful words, then everything will always work out just how it is meant to. For when you stand by your own morals and values, have self respect and back yourself 100%, you will never falter. Sure you may fall, but you will have the power and courage to pick yourself back up; or at the very least, stay on your knees and pray.

We have the ability to change our lives for the better; not your mother, father, sister, dog, cat or partner ... us! It is not selfish to love ourselves as it clears us so that we can love ourselves enough to be able to love others and it really is true with the old saying of "love makes the world go around". When I say "loving yourself", I mean, having a deep appreciation for who we are. We accept all the different parts of our selves - our little peculiarties, the embarrassing moments, the things we may not do so well and all the wonderful and amazing qualities we possess also. We accept the whole package with love. UNCONDITIONALLY!

The past few months have been a huge path of self-discovery and growth for me. I have been through a lot of personal issues and through it all, with the grace of God, the love of my family and the support of my friends, I have come out the other end of what appeared to be a very dark tunnel. In my reflection, I know there have been times when I let my self-respect and love for myself wander and it was in those moments, where I felt my most lonely and my most lost and very uneasy with life. Being able to hold onto those things that mean the most to us, the people who will be by ourside no matter what and the lessons we have learnt, I have realized that no matter what, I am stronger than I think and no matter what life throws at me, I can and will get through it and I will be ok.
I love the saying "there is something inside of us that is far greater than any obstacle" and when you tap-in to that power within and let the Universe guide you, support you and take care of you, there is nothing that is too big for you to overcome.

I am a very firm believer that in all situations, there is ALWAYS something good to come out of it. It may not be revealed straight away and you may think that life is taking the mickey out of you at times, but if you stay calm in the midst of all the chaos, take a deep breathe and trust your own inner power, you will be amazed at the strength, courage and fighting power you do actually possess.

Everyone is fabulous and has something profound and amazing to offer the world. Maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy/girl. Maybe it is our ourselves. On our own, picking up the pieces and starting over. Freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is just about moving on ... 

We are the power we have been seeking. We are in charge of our lives.

What an amazing gift!

Stay fabulous!
Butterflies, Hugs and Kisses

14 September 2011

There comes a time in your life.....

There comes a time in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying, blaming and struggling to hold on. Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes. 

You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.

You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you…and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are…and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.

You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself…and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

Your stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you – or didn’t do for you – and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.

You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and everything isn’t always about you.

So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself…and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties…and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.

You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.

You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.

You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for you next fix.

You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.

You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry.

Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.

You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.

You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.

You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drinking more water, and take more time to exercise.

You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.

You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.

You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.

More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.

You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.

You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people…and you learn not to always take it personally. 
You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls. 

You lean that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.

You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.

Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than you heart’s desire.

You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.

You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.

Finally, with courage in you heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can. 

What a gift ...